Growth

My wife is in full blown consignment sale mode. What that means for me and the kids is, if you want to keep it, don't set it down! She has this whole system worked out involving hangers, plastic bags and a fog machine to keep us from seeing what she is getting rid of. At first I thought the subterfuge was for the sake of the kids, but recently I figured out it was for my sake. I tend to get sentimental when it comes to getting rid of things that belonged to the kids. I still remember the days when the babies couldn't fall asleep without that special stuffed toy, and now to see it just tossed in a bag forgotten about, kind of hurts me a little. Karen is constantly reminding me though that, "we aren't going to be sad about what WAS, but excited about what soon will be". That's sound advice and more evidence of why I married her.

Many Christians I am afraid are far to happy living in the "once was", all the while never moving on into the "what could be". I know far too many believers who spend all their time talking about what God has done for them. They have a great testimonies about how God saved them from this sin or that addiction. Now I am not downplaying the importance of a good testimony; what God has done for you is a great tool to use when sharing your faith with someone else. What I am afraid of though is that too many of us get saved and then just kind of wait around for death or Jesus coming back, which ever comes first. That kind of lifestyle runs contrary to what the scriptures command us to do. In the book of Galatians, Paul is writing to a group of believers who are saved, but spiritually immature. They get tossed about by every doctrinal wind that blows, they fall victim to every slick tongued preacher with "a word". The reason that they were so susceptible to the lies, was they hadn't grown in the truth. A study in the book of Galatians is a tough one, like I have said to the class many times, its like swimming in the deep end of the pool. It is only through studies like this one though that we build spiritual muscles and become familiar with the truth. The scripture constantly exhorts us to pray, study, work, pray and then work some more. I hope that you are working, because it is through the work of the gospel that we will be strengthened and those around us will be saved. Where are you on the "spiritual growth" chart. Are you growing up, moving beyond the ways of your youth or are you content where you are? Never be content, good just isn't good enough.
Ed

Truth

I hate losing things. My problem is I am so forgetful that I do it all the time. I lose my keys, I lose my wallet and probably most of all I lose my cell phone. Most of the time my phone is an easy thing to find, I simply call it from another phone and then walk around listening for it until I find it. There are times however that won't work. Sometimes I turn it off, sometimes the battery is dead and then sometimes I do something stupid like leave it at work (last week)! When I can't find what I am looking for I usually go through several stages; anger that I lost it, frustration that I am so forgetful, confusion because I can't remember, and then finally denial. You know how it is, if you lose something most of the time its someone elses fault for moving it! No matter what stage I am in though, the sick feeling in the pit of my stomach never goes away. I know that no matter where I look or what I say or who I blame, I am never going to find what I am looking for.

Many people in the world and I am afraid many in the church have the empty feeling in the pit of their stomachs when it comes to the truth. Lots of people realize that they don't have it, don't know what it is and don't know where to find it. They go through life searching and questioning and blaming others for their own deficiencies. The world is angered by the fact that Christians claim to know the truth and find peace in it. Honestly, I understand their anger. When I lose something important to me and no one around me seems to care, I get angry too. Jesus Christ said in John 14:6 that he is, "The Way, The Truth and The Life, no man cometh to the Father but by me". That is an absolute truth that the world needs to know, but how can they know it if we fail to share it. It is my hope and my prayer that we (I) do a better job of sharing the truth with others, I want them to know I care that they have lost the truth. Paul in his letter to the Galatians is sharing the hard facts with his readers (that salvation is by grace through faith alone) because he loves them. He knew that they were lost, he knew that they were grasping at straws to fill the void in their lives and he knew that the only answer to all of their questions was the Truth of the gospel. I hope you know the truth too, don't lose it and don't be afraid to share it. The same gospel that set men free in Paul's day, is setting men free today. Share out of love, share out of obedience and share because you have found what they are looking for. We have the Truth, and the Truth shall set us free!

Grace

For those of you who don't know, I have coached my son's baseball team for the last 4 years. I love getting to be out there with the kids, and enjoy getting to teach them the basics of the game. Baseball to me is very unique in the sense that the thing that helps the New York Yankee's win so many ball games, is the same thing that will help the Highview "Golds" win, a grasp of the fundamentals. For a baseball player every spring starts the same from the time they first put on their gloves until they make it to the Major League, a review of how to field, how to hit and even how to run the bases. It is not as if these players forget, but it is always good to be reminded of the essentials of the game.

The same could be said of us, spiritually speaking. Many of us have been around this "game" a long time, while others of us might be rookies. It doesn't matter what your experience level is a review of the fundamentals is always a good thing. Last week we started taking a look at the book of Galatians and talked about how important grace is. To say that it is important is kind of like saying that a ball is important to baseball. Without it, there is really no game at all. Ephesians 2:8 tell us that, "For it is by GRACE you have been saved, through faith--and this not from yourselves, it is a gift from God". Without grace we cannot have access to Jesus, without Jesus, there is no salvation. Salvation is not dependent on us or our actions, it is totally dependent upon God and His grace. We live in an age that wants to celebrate the accomplishments of the individual, when it comes to our salvation the only celebration that is possible is worship of the One who did it all for us. Fundamental number one for Christianity, it's not about you-its all about him. Let us together live lives that point others toward the answer they are seeking. What can I do to get to God? Call out for HIS mercy and HIS grace, your actions will only result in more errors.
Ed

Intimacy

Sometimes in life there are things that we want, but for some reason we have a hard time putting it into words. For instance for some of you ladies its the perfect hair cut or the perfect outfit. For some of you guys its the perfect set of golf clubs or the perfect vacation spot. You can't explain it, but you will know it if you see it. For many couples the thing they want and can't put into words is the desire to be intimate. They want it, in fact they long for it, they know they don't have it, but they can't seem to communicate that need to their spouse. One reason for that is many people make the mistake of equating intimacy with sex. Physical intimacy is one part of the equation, but it's not the whole thing. For us to be completely fulfilled we must not only have our need for physical intimacy met, but also our need for emotional and spiritual intimacy. If we as husbands and wives fail to meet the needs of our spouses in any one of these areas, we are opening the door to temptation and potential failure. Here are just a few ways that we can work on the different areas.

If you want to emotionally connect with your spouse try doing something special for them that shows you are thinking about them when they aren't around. For instance:

• Send them a love note through the mail (it shows forethought and intention)
• Plan a surprise lunch or dinner for them (pack a picnic and make it fun)
• Hide a love note somewhere where they will find it when you are not around (their desk or purse or lunchbox)
• Pick a habit that you have that bothers your spouse and let them know you are changing it for them.

For physical intimacy try these things:

• Remember that (on average) women are crock pots and men are microwaves. Guy's if you want your dinner to be hot, you have to start it early. Call during the day, say I love you outside of the bedroom and show her that you are thinking of her in more ways than one. For you ladies, we know that a five course meal is great, but sometimes a microwave pizza will hit the spot. I think you know what I am saying.
• If physical intimacy is a problem in your marriage you might need to take a look backward and deal with past sexual sins. There might be somethings from our past that are barriers to our future. Confess, forgive and move on.

For spiritual intimacy:

• Make sure that each of you is a believer. Each partner needs to have their own personal walk with the Savior.
• Each partner needs to have their own daily quite time. If don't have one, start one. Five minutes is better than nothing.
• Start praying together. Pray for each other, your concerns and the problems that you both face.
• GO TO WORSHIP AND ABF TOGETHER! This step cannot be overstated. Attend worship and bible study on a regular basis and use the things that are talked about to stimulate your own spiritual conversations and growth.

We mentioned in the first week that love, as a feeling, isn't what your marriage should be built on. The reality is though that if you have that feeling it makes things easier. Work on your intimacy. Work on your connection and watch your marriage grow.

Ed